My journey - From lost to powerful

It comes not easy to me talking about myself.

I was lucky enough to be brought up, for the greatest part of my early childhood, by my grandparents, who lived a tranquil and ordinate life.

My grandpa was a professor in mathematics, who loved fishing and silence, my nan was a lively, energetic housewife who loved a laughter, gossip, coca cola, and hated cooking.

They used to share breakfast, an aperitif at 5 pm and dinner shortly thereafter, but had lunch separately, grandad at work and nan at home.

My other family was sad, angry, depressed and narcissistic.

I really don't like to recall any of the abuses happening daily during my teenage years, when the good days with nan were gone: it was a patriarchal and very isolated, closed family. Closed, not close.

The favourite sentence of my parents was, "Look what you made me do!" never taking any responsibility for their own mess and putting it on each other,

but mostly on me.

I never understood why they wanted a child in the first place, and I was quite messed up when I happily left the house with a guy, who in no time isolated me from family and friends, and started then to be verbally and physically abusive right after I got pregnant with our first child.

I'll make it short; my parents died, I kept going for nearly 16 years, then I finally got it and ran with my kids to find myself and a little peace and freedom.

It took me 15 more years to blossom and realise I was not the one "worth less than a dime," who most likely would "end up under the bridge" without them, as my father was always so keen to remind me

During the journey I have worked hard, brought up two amazing kids, and found my purpose.

Around 2002, I started coaching some of the younger people working with me.

Then, in May 2012, a massive earthquake took my job as a Chef, and after a while I flew to England as I was told that there were thousands of jobs in

the HORECA industry.

As an experienced Chef it took me 3 hours to find a job; my life would start from scratch again - Take 4.

Like a cat, I seem to have nine lives, luckily, as life number four abruptly stopped on a sunny winter day in 2015: my legs refused to move; it seemed as they were packed in concrete.

Despite the danger, I flew to Milan after my GP refused to have me checked

out by a specialist.

That was the defining moment when life number five started.

It all happened while recovering from the thrombosis I suffered, from the comfortable bed in my rented room in Kent.

I was looking for a job I could do from home, and in fact, I found one very quickly, that would pay my rent, some debts I had, and food, but that really was nothing else as a day job for the money.

Meanwhile I got to know a very capable coach.

I took one of her courses, as well as some classes and an online course to become a certified coach, and started studying NLP, neuro sciences, and clinical hypnotherapy.

Life number 5.

Five as in abundance, personal freedom, the unconventional, individualism, non-attachment, change, life lessons learned through experience, variety, adaptability and versatility, resourcefulness, motivation, progress, activity, experience, travel and adventure, sympathy and understanding, sociability and companionship, release and surrender, influence, promotion, natural flair, courage and being courageous, health and healing, idealism, telepathy, vitality, vision and the visionary, expansion, opportunity, story-telling, mercy, kindness, invention, magnetism, competitiveness, imagination, curiosity, cleverness and intelligence, and making positive life choices and decisions.

And, yes, finally, here I am.

A Master Coach with a holistic approach, NLP&Time Techniques specialist, Hypnotist; I have one single mission:

- Healing women at a turning point,

- Give them (back) confidence, clarity and self-esteem,

- Have them reclaim and own their lives, their place in the world,

- Get them to make "it" happen!

- Make them HAPPY!!!

This is what I do.

Because if you are in Hell, I'll support you, walking through at your side.

Welcome Life!

Hi! I am Patricia.

I am a fully qualified and certified Holistic Intuitive Master NLP Life Coach and Strategist.

This means that I am able to deliver the Results you need and desire.

I have all the tools we need to find your inner resources and get you there, where you belong.

I am an accredited member of

APC and I work strictly following their set Ethics Standards.

People know me because I support in many ways, but foremost with my holistic and intuitive approach to life challenges.

I'll pick you up when you have fallen; I'll encourage you to grow when you are stuck; I'll heal you when you are hurt.

I know where you come from. I have been there.

I know where you are.

I have been there as well.

I know where you will be.

I AM there.

Grab my hand; my grip is secure, and I won't let you down - Ever!

Looking back
it didn't seem
all bad:
The Beginning

When I started my journey as a coach and later as NLP practitioner, I realised that I had to put my past life in perspective to fully understand the gig.

I had an amazing friend asking me one powerful question, "What are you grateful for today?"

Back in 2005, I was just starting the process; wounds were still open and bleeding.

I looked up straight in his eyes and said, "Nothing!"

I was angry and repeated, "Nothing! Don't you see what a mess I've got in my life and in my head? Do you really think I have something to be grateful for?"

And he just said, "Yes."

Yes, as if yes, I had plenty.

But more than the word - yes - the look in his eyes was firm and convincing.

He made me look back, and recall the years I had served as a copper, saving lives and jailing dangerous people; the years I had spent raising my kids: the darkness of those years showed huge light spots, as all I did for and with the kids was inundated by a white, warm light.

The jokes, the homework, the strolling at the mall or in the park around the lake, the cooking and baking together, the grocery shopping on their own while I was watching them from afar...

Even the dentist visits were a moment of great fun and true love.

I taught them reading and writing before the age of four, and the local library became their preferred place.

I took them to the seaside in summer, and to the swimmingpool in the winter, we had trips to amusement parks, and I taught them fishing and cycling.

They played softball, football and we went skating; at the end of the day they became two loving and caring adults, with a special place in their hearts for those who suffer.

And I did it all on my own.

They were growing good kids, loving and caring for each other, they supported each other and we mostly had a good time together.

For each memory, a new spot of white light appeared, and in the end the darkness was gone.

Looking back I saw light, love, warmth.

An absolute, total feeling of gratitude and pride overwhelmed me.

I was finally grateful to my hangman because he had given me the chance to be a mother of two extraordinary human beings.

That was a defining moment.

I needed to change perspective, keeping that momentum and the feeling, anchoring the love and linking it to my dark years.

"So what are you grateful for today?"

"Life" I said, "Life is good!"

Time for a change

The time to change came with my illness; it was the perfect moment to start a new life.

I grabbed the opportunity, taking a nose dive into the science of supporting others.

Today I am grateful to the dark times, because they gave me the chance to become who I am now.

I've been lucky enough not to grow miserable and cranky,

I never lost my smile with my kids, that was their only safe haven - mama's smile when she hugged them.

And still, here I am; smiling, supporting, confronting, showing the light that conquers the darkness.

Because this is what I do.

But foremost, this is who I am.

In My Toolbox

I am an experienced Intuitive Master Coach, Life Strategist, NLP & Time Techniques Master, and Hypnotist with a Holistic approach to

Life Coaching.

Also mastering alternative disciplines like: Ho'oponopono, Kaizen, Ikigai, Meditation, Tapping, Quantum Core Transformation..

I work with adult women, make them Blossom, Become, Empower their Mind, Find perspective, Heal their Soul; Heal Past traumatic experiences from the Future; nourish Body, Soul, and Mind; Reframe Negative Emotions.

I nullify their Blockages and make them forget about Procrastination.

I also assist with the S.M.A.R.T.-E.S.T. Goal Setting Techniques, and Weight Management.

By the way: I am a native Dutch, and Italian speaker, fluent in English.

I have payment plans and a very appealing pro bono policy, if you're a bit short in luck, don't be shy just #Ask.

Member of APC - Association for Professional Coaching and

GCA -The Global Coaches Association

Social media:

www.facebook.com/TheConceptCoach

https://www.linkedin.com/in/patty-j-smit/

How I support you

Remember: YOU are resourceful.

You don't know how many resources you have hidden inside your mind!

My duty is to encourage you to find them and put them at work for you.

To do so I use multiple tools:

- NLP (Neuro Linguistic Programming)

- Hypnosis

- Time Techniques

- Perceptual Positions (Gestalt)

- TimeTravel

- Kaizen

- Ikigai

I will go deep into your subconscious mind to heal and rewire those parts of your memory that keep you from finding your inner, powerful resources.

I will detach negative emotions from situations you have lived and can't let go of.

I will take you by the hand, and you will overcome all the obstacles that are holding you back and preventing you from achieving the life of your dreams.

After the healing process is completed, we will start setting the goals leading you to enjoy the life of your dreams!

And finally, I will show you the way to achieve your goals, keeping you accountable for the minor, easily attainable goals in between, so that the steps you have to make will feel literally a piece of cake!

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